Novembro de 2014

um trecho que sintetiza o que de mais importante aprendi escrevendo a tese

Connectedness and separateness form a functional opposition in that the total autonomy of parties precludes their relational connection, just as the total connection between parties precludes their individual autonomy. (…) In established relationships, the interplay between connection and separation is always present, so that the relational partners are continually poised ‘between unity and differentiation’ (1996: 79), or in other words, poised between being a social system and being individual components, as opposed to being poised between the ends of a continuum. The tensional interplay of connectedness and separateness is fluid and dynamic, it is not resolvable, and it cannot be eliminated short of ceasing all communication. Relationships are neither driven by nor oriented toward achieving a synthesis of, maintaining a balance between, or canceling out the contradictory poles. Connectedness and separateness is the principal or fundamental dialectic in relationships because no relationship exists except as two separate or differentiated individuals achieve some form of social connection or unity. The dialectic is integral with the individual/social dialectic because achieving connectedness among individuals generates what is social, while achieving separateness within the social generates what is individual. (Baxter & Montgomery, 1996 apud Arundale, 2010, p. 2087)

- Trecho da Face Constituting Theory (FCT)